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He’s a real nowhere man,
Sitting in his Nowhere Land,
Making all his nowhere plans for nobody.
Doesn’t have a point of view,
Knows not where he’s going to,
Isn’t he a bit like you and me?
(Beatles, 1965)
Transcript:
Another question just came up about how to realize who we really are, to meet that place that is a ‘nobody’, that is actually everything.
So, there is another hint. It goes like this. When you are trying to be somebody, to achieve some things, you are doing it from an old place in the mind that has been programmed by people that are doing the same thing and it has not worked for them. If it had worked for them, they wouldn’t be telling you to do it the way they are telling you to do it.
So, I am going to give you another hint now. You see, in a way, we are all trying to be important. We are trying to be important not just for other people but so that we can feel better about ourselves. In fact, some people do a very ridiculous thing. They are trying to make a name for themselves so that they will be remembered after they are dead. Isn’t that strange?
So, I am going to tell you another way how you can take a look at being fulfilled. This is what you need to do. You need to get on your own and turn everything off. Sit down and take a look at, how would you like your life really to be. Don’t bring in anything practical about what is possible or impossible or what people would say or wouldn’t say. Be all on you own, nobody need ever know. What would you really like? Where would you like to be? Who would you like to be with? What would you like to be doing?
Because this is what we can call a matrix, which means a pattern that is inside you whether you are realizing it or not. Unless you connect with this pattern, you’ll never feel fulfilled. You’ll never feel satisfied. So often we think, “Ah, we need to be a …somebody and make a lot of money and then…” I keep saying, if you look around that’s not working. This is what’ll work. Find out what you would really like to be doing and as an ancillary, where would you really like to be? What type of person would you really like to be with, if you want to be with a person. It doesn’t matter what it is.
The son of my brother is a gardener and he is fulfilled. He loves gardening. He loves it. If he didn’t get paid, he’ll go on doing it. He loves doing it. Find out what you love to do. What’s fulfilling. What’s satisfied, and then do what you need to do to be able to support yourself through that. So, maybe you need some training. You might need to change your whole life.
But take a look. A doctor makes a lot of money and is very well respected, but how many deeply satisfied doctors do you know? Or actors, or bankers, or anybody… You’ll find out what’s close to your heart and this is secondary, so don’t take it too seriously. If it is about giving back to people in some way, you’ll find there is another depth to it as well. You see, doing the garden is giving back. Cleaning a house is giving back. Everything is giving back, if your heart is in it.
You know you can go to some restaurant and the food looks wonderful, but somehow… and then you go to other little places, even a little roadside store and there is something in the food because it is cooked with love and caring. Love and caring, you find that in yourself -how you would like to be spending your life. You have something that’s so magnificent, you can’t think it now. Whatever you think it is. It’s not that. It is beyond that. You can’t think it. Not only that, you’ll be blessing the people around you as well. Even if you don’t do anything or say anything, just your presence will be a blessing when you have found your thing that’s close to your heart. Allow yourself to do it and you’ll find yourself fulfilled.
Just as an exercise, try it out. Find some time on your own, sit and take a look. Then at least be aware of what you are not doing. Either do it or say, ”This is what I would like to be doing and I am not having the courage or …” But no bullshit excuses, because there aren’t any excuses.
You are as free as you let yourself be.