“Why can’t you accept me just as I am?”
Do you accept everyone just as they are?
If you did, you would be accepting the people as they are, who do not
accept you as you are!
Are you unconditionally accepting of cheats, liars, torturers, rapists and
dictators? Unconditional love is very rare.
One strong suggestion.
When you are awake, you have probably seen and accepted every part of
yourself – so when you see another, accepting is not a relevant term –
everything and everybody, just is – doing its/their thing. Equal.
At a certain level of awake-ness, an automatic discerning happens –
between ‘the person’ and their behaviour.
You can love a person dearly, but because their behaviour is so
unpleasantly self-centred, you hope you never have to have to be in their
Loving, and liking/enjoying people’s addictive behaviour are two very
different things. (Addictive behaviour? — all behaviour is addictive.)
Most people, most of the time, are living their lives according to the
parameters that have been programmed into them in their early years.
(Notorious Jesuit quote: “Give me the child for their first seven years
and I will give you the man.”)
We do not experience ourselves as we really are.
We are not aware of our subtle nuances of fear, and that we are thus not
living in our freedom. We do not feel fulfilled until we are living without
fear and thus in freedom.
Once again – just about living, unconditionally aware in each moment.
Simon and Garfunkel adaptation:
Slow down, you go’in too fast, go to make the moment last,
Haven’t you no time for me? Doodle de dodo – feel’in grooovy…