Sharing with a friend: we draw to us what we need.
Here’s another aspect to behavior. It is what they call “Catch-22.” It revolves around on itself. You see, you are looking for somebody that you can talk to at your level of consciousness, somebody who will meet you where you are, right? Right. In the meantime, you’re behaving in a way that would put off anybody. They would meet you and say, “Well, I can’t talk to this person because their behavior is so strong, I don’t know how to get through their behavior to meet.”
So the very people you are looking for, you’re putting off. But there is another aspect to it. You see, you’re putting them off vibrationally. You see, if you were to click into that phase in yourself where you’re not going to behave, no matter how foolish you look, no matter how many people leave you and never talk to you again, or get upset. You’re not going there.
Somebody on the other side of the planet, that’s appropriate to me, will get drawn to you. We were drawn to each other. We were drawn to each other. You get…you draw people. Distance has nothing to do with anything. When you reach a certain stage, and it’s appropriate for a person to connect with you, you’re a magnet. But not only for you, them as well.
So, let’s say, the more refined frequency you’re in, the more you draw the refined frequency. And it may not always be in a person that’s in a body. It may not even be a person. You know some dogs and some cats are extraordinary people, extraordinary. They bring something. You draw what you need when you reach a stage where it’s appropriate for you to be with that energy. And until then you keep drawing to you people and situations, to make what you are feeling more frustrating, so you’ll let it go.
So if you’re getting bored with people, you keep drawing boring people to you until you wake up to the fact: it is not appropriate for me to attempt to communicate at this level any longer. I am now available for something else even if that means never meeting anybody again.
It has to be, and I keep saying this but I don’t think it goes in, it has to be totally unconditional. Unconditional. If you have the slightest…“The great way is not difficult for those that have no preferences. Make the slightest distinction, however, and heaven and hell are set infinitely apart.” Any, any barrier you put in the way, you say, “I am totally open for this, except that.” That “except” keeps you totally stuck. No exception. Not even a preference. You acknowledge there’s a preference, but you don’t put it in front of you as a barrier. “I have that preference that I would like them to be good-looking and sexy and this and that. I have that preference. But if it comes in the form of a cat, I’m available. Whatever form it comes in, even if it’s an annoying person. If there is something there, I am there and available.” In fact, if the person is annoying you, there is your message. The fact that you are annoyed means that they are ringing on a bell in you where you’re annoying and not accepting it. Not seeing it. Not being with it.
And then we come back to: everything is always for us. The more unconditional they are, the less we’re holding, the more we will draw to us what we need. But the thing is, the more unconditional, the more fun. The more conditional, the more unpleasant things you draw towards you. The more unconditional, fun things, even fun people.
There are fun people on this planet. But you see, they’re hiding. They’re hiding from people that are not fun because they don’t need them. They don’t need anybody. But they will get drawn to people who don’t need anybody.
A relationship will never work when the person needs to be in a relationship because they are needing each other. And they are both needing each other to be the way they want them to be. It’s hell. Relationship is hell. When you don’t need anybody, and the other person doesn’t need anybody, then: a tremendous union, a oneness.