Grief is self-indulgent – it is about ourselves, not the other.
When someone dies, do you really want them to stay –
just for your comfort?
You are missing them because you are not taking care
to complete the things in your life that need taking care of.
Sad – yes. You miss them. And anything else has been using them
to fill in a space in yourself that you have not been taking care of.
That’s what we do with difficult relationships – use the other to fill
our empty space. And as they are attempting to do the same –
Fulfilment is when you no longer need anyone, or anything
to feel at peace. And way, way beyond any judgement.
And at the same time, really, really enjoying
meeting people who are also in that delightful state.