“I am feeling anger, or maybe just severe frustration.
It’s like those closest to me have never truly seen me.”
As I see it, feeling anger is a natural phenomenon –
part of the instinctive survival system.
Indulging in anger is stubbornly and irresponsibly stupid.
Until ‘The Shift’ – anger can arise –
usually any time anything is not ‘just the way it should be’ –
meaning, just the way we want it.
When the shift has not yet been realised,
then how we are with the anger is totally up to us.
When I used to say this in the talks,
we could feel the whole room shut down.
“Don’t want to know that thank you.”
We don’t want to hear this – we want what we want,
And what we want is support and sympathy for our anger.
We love feeling a victim – and when we feel uncomfortable
it is almost always someone else’ s fault.
Anger arises when we don’t get what we want,
and what we want is everyone to treat us the way we want to
be treated. Trouble is, everybody wants to be treated the way they
want to be treated.
“It’s like those closest to me have never truly seen me.”
If you have an expectation, of any sort, you will be disappointed. For
sure. Plus, one of the reasons they do not see you is probably because
you have never been honest enough to totally show your true self.
Just to consider, once again…
You are never, ever justified to be angry at another. Or yourself. Ever.
If you are feeling anger it is because you are resisting –
and not being with the situation just as it.
People are the way they are, and you are the way you are.