Hi Love,
You say:
”Paul, I can absolutely reflect and share that learning with you has made this wonderful life
I am living, possible. I thank you. As to women, the ideas of non-attachment are making it very
difficult to find a partner. I do know either intellectually or intuitively that possessive,
jealous, monogamous conditions cannot work in my life.
In summary, I am grateful to have met you over 10 years ago, you have influenced and changed my
life only for the better in every way, and I am continually practicing living in the present,
disconnecting from my attachments, including thoughts, and just having fun. Traditional partnering
feels suffocating to me so I am open to meeting several women to share and have fun with and they
do show up — usually for a short time as they go and search for their husband and father of their
children..
Thanks for the report. All sounding excellent. Sounds like you are doing great. Congratulations.
To the mature, sex is insignificant — except as an amusement/adventure, and a vague possibility
of a gate to something else.
Our whole approach to sexuality, East and West, is fucked.
Actually, all our approaches to everything are fucked. We appraise everything through our
conditioning, which is so distorted that there is practically no truth in it at all. The
very basis of the way we think is based on a conditioning that does not work, and never will
as there is no basis of truth in it.
Our whole approach to life is so distorted that there is no basis of truth to what we think we
are seeing. Not only do we operate through inadequate and distorting conditioning, but we take
it that the dimensions from which we think we exist are the only ones. There are many more
dimensions other than what we have been told about. Life is absolutely nothing like we think
it is.
To be practical, about the subject you mention, you have been programmed to think a certain way
about relationship. You are conditioned to see things in terms of time. There is no such thing.
It is an illusion that only exists in your mind. No mind, no time. It is an illusion that exists
only in your limited experience. As you say, if you let go of the idea of relationship, and just
live in the moment, you are having a wonderful time.
Your mind uses a person to whom you are attracted as a basis on which to paste your fantasies.
When you get to live with that person the truth emerges — you are not as compatible as you
imagined. It is very, very rare for two people to live in loving harmony. Not impossible, it
does happen, but very rarely. And it does not need to happen as there are plenty of people to
go around. If you let go of the idea of time you are having a wonderful present — getting the
best, without the hassle. As for going deep — that has nothing to do with time.
I send you much love dear friend.. paul