Hi Love.
Great that you got shaken. If stuff is down there it needs to be shaken loose — or, although it is contaminating your life, you may not even know it is affecting you. No stuff, no disturbance.
To recap, mostly from the woman’s approach this time: We exist on multi levels, and each level has its own legitimate reality. On one level we are baby producing machines. That’s it. The man supplies the sperm and material support, and the woman does all the other. So we have mechanisms and chemicals to get us together to do what is necessary. Those coy looks, dancing, sexy movements, erogenous zones, thrusting pelvises, thinking we are in love forever — all part of the plot.
On another level we could see a state of evolving. Unless one is at an very advanced stage of consciousness then evolving in isolation is not at all easy. Almost impossible. So we get drawn to situations that will help us to see ourselves more clearly. Relationships do that. Everything we do not accept in the other is something we are not accepting in ourselves. So after the acting and deception, called: The Courting, followed by: The Honeymoon, we start to see the other, and thus ourselves more clearly. Too late!
On the reproduction level we get drawn to each other by the potential of producing the best possible offspring. Tests have shown that we get turned on most by the person that has the smell of the opposite DNA combination that we have — so that the combined DNA produces the best possible offspring. On another level we get drawn to people who have other types of opposite attributes. Again to produce the best possible. Mongrels are usually healthier than pure inbred. Many crash in the mating game because their psychological background has been so unhealthy that they cannot choose clearly from instincts — so they choose from their neurosis. They choose someone who is like, or the opposite of the parent.
Science is now showing us that there are different levels of chemicals released during the courtship, engagement, pregnancy, childbearing, and the early life of the baby. After the whole process is over the chemicals clear and the whole thing starts again. Often it is not appropriate for the same couple to have the second baby together. Each persons general behaviour has evolved/deteriorated differently and there is no longer the best possible match. That is where religion and marriage has interfered with the natural process. So the mating game has a strong influence on two people getting together in bed. When two people do get in bed together for sex it is rare to have intimacy. The natural process is to have orgasm. That way the sperm has the best chance to reach the egg. In order to have orgasm there is contraction — which makes a gap between the couple. It does not have to be so. If two people are in bed together for recreational sex then the matter is simple — just go for it and get it over with. But if there is a higher awareness then much more is possible. First the basic instincts need to be acknowledged. The basic instinct is that the woman needs to be turned on, then serviced. It is supposed to be the job of the man to do the turning on, and the servicing. At this level intimacy is not too likely.
At a more refined level two people come together to meet in a more intimate way, to be vulnerable and really meet each other. Then there is the possibility to blend into something beyond the separateness. So when the sensation of orgasm begins, relax — don’t contract. Then… at the start, two named people; then just two people; then two energies; then one energy; then two disappearing into…. Often people who have been together in other lives/dimensions gravitate to each other in this way. So it sounds simple, but there are so many conflicting factors involved. It is very, very rare to find a so-called civilized person who is natural about sex. Some natural tribes, but in a so-called civilized country, no. How so? It varies a lot, and is happening younger now, but around ten to twelve years of age the system goes through a change and the person starts to feel a strong attraction to another person. At first it is to the same sex. For some it continues this way, but for the majority it changes to be being drawn to the opposite sex. Strongly. It haunts the person, day and night. This is natural.
What is not natural is the attitude of adults around this process. Fear. With suitable education young people could have their attractions, and sex, and continue their lives in a healthy way. Instead, great pressure is applied to suppress these strong natural sensations. In the catholic religion sex is only allowed within marriage, together for life of course, and only permitted when attempting to have a child. And they are not allowed to enjoy the process. Sex is sin. So we grow up feeling guilty about ourselves and how we feel, and create a great backlog of suppressed sexual feelings. So we are fucked — without getting fucked.
One factor involved in this process is acceptance, and not being rejected. Because the male youth had his natural sexual feelings suppressed, his natural sexual feelings are suppressed. So when his female child reaches puberty he can be aroused. We are told that in at least 25% of situations the father sexually molests his daughter. It also happens with mothers with their male children. If the sexual contact was without social disapproval, guilt, or violence, and the daughter enjoyed, then apart from not being too healthy, the daughter would not be too disturbed. But of course, this is not so. So are the other 75% unaffected? No. In many cases the father is consciously or unconsciously aroused, and suppresses the sensation. But in the process he withdraws his energy from his daughter. The child feels this and feels rejected and feels she has done something wrong, and tries to get the attention back — by being cute, which make the situation worse, or trying not to upset her father.
Back to her being in bed with a man. His sexual energy has been suppressed. Her sexual energy has been suppressed. There has been no real sexual education –so the man sees the woman as a female version of himself, and the woman sees the man as a male version of herself. Plus, they both think they should, and do know all there is to know about sex. And, she does not want to upset her father/sexual partner. So there is no truth is bed with them. So the man, not being so sensitive in this area is usually somewhat satisfied, but the woman is not. So she complains to her female friends, and is often resentful towards the man. Another factor. If the woman says what she wants and does not want the man often gets his sexual ego offended — because he is insecure and feels he is supposed to know. The result is not helpful — he loses his erection. Another factor. There are beings coming into the world now that are vibrating at a higher level of vibration. The early ones try hard to fit in. The new ones are not. The ones that are trying to fit in think something is wrong with them if they are not like other people.
For some of these new beings sex is a remote feeling. It is there, because they are in a human body, but it is not a big deal. In fact in some cases it is an embarrassment. Although they don’t really know what they are looking for, in fact they are looking for something with a higher vibration. Sex at its basic is very crude. So when these women get into bed with a ‘normal’ man the woman is not comfortable with the situation. The man wants to do these strange things while she is more drawn to gentle intimate contact. Same when one of these men who are vibrating at a higher frequency gets into bed with a ‘normal’ woman. He may be drawn to touch and caress to enhance the feeling of closeness and love that he feels, and she is looking to get turned on. And when she does get turned on she goes remote and out of touch, and makes these rather painful sounding noises — frightening!
I have been studying humans in this dimension for seventy years. I have looked at the approaches and methods of people who are attempting to assist people waking up to another level of awareness. I do not see any any method really working. If people realised that they are, and how much they are asleep, and wanted to awaken then the methods could be more effective, but being asleep to being asleep make it almost impossible. I feel I am fading out of the game. The only things that seems to really work is presence. If someone is vibrating at a higher frequency then being as close as possible, or even tuning in to them, and being unconditionally receptive, something can happen.
On a practical level I have these suggestions. We need to live together. We need to become aware of our thoughts and process. We need to share our inner dialogue. But most of all, we need to be honest, with ourselves, and each other. And, in addition, we need to look beyond our little selves and invest ourselves in something bigger than our little world.
And not take anything too seriously. In the world of awakening, nothing has any more importance than anything else. Nothing.
Sending lots of love and laughter…
paul