Often, a situation appears not to have a satisfactory solution.
There is always a solution – if we will loosen up a bit, and include
all the factors, and participants, with equal caring.
That includes the other, and the self.
You ask for some suggestions on your present situation.
First, I like that the bond with you two is so strong you are ready
to live anywhere. Lovely. I love, love.
As for a solution, I am not seeing a practical outer one,
and in any case, I do not see outer ones ever being permanent.
So, generally, for a start. Whenever we attempt to fix an outer
situation in order to feel how we would like to feel, eventually
something else comes up that also needs fixing – in order to feel
how we think we would like to feel. In other words – the outer is
not a permanent fix.Needs to taken care of, and, not a permanent solution.
It is the inner state that is closer to fulfilment.
Each situation is an opportunity to see the relation
between the inner and outer more clearly.
And it is the inner that is the priority.
I have often found that an outer situation changes when the inner
is accepted. One mundane situation I have used to show this is,
when I first travelled to America to hold a meeting, I was under the
impression that my visa did not fully cover the situation. Each time
I came into the country I was questioned. Then I found that my visa
did cover the situation – and I was never questioned again.
I have many instances of, when someone changes their inner attitude
to a more inclusive and loving one, the other person also changes.
Not seeming like logic – and it is – we are all connected, and we are
affecting each other – all the time. So caring and compassion – for the
other, can change a seemingly impossible situation.
So you could experiment. Sit quietly with your eyes closed and review
the whole situation of your life.
Then take a look at any judgements you have about the other person,
and tune in to them with as much caring as you can imagine.
See yourself in their place, and see if you can feel how they are feeling.
Then just sit and see if something pops up from a deeper place within.
You see, there is always a solution – with the maximum benefit for all
involved. There is. It is just a matter of disconnecting from our own inner
concern – for just ourselves and how we feel.
Sending supportive love