Have you noticed? When someone in your life keeps doing small things about
which you get annoyed, and you do not say so at the time, one day, even
though the incident is small, you can pop – in a big way. You hit the
situation with all that stored energy – which is a lot more than is
appropriate for that particular incident?
When someone decides to ‘share their truth’ after holding it back for some
time, a lot of old stuff comes pouring out. During the storing period the energy
can condense and turn toxic. When it does come out, often it is not appropriate
to the moment – or to the person involved.
When you come to realise that you are holding energy and decide to do
something about it, best to attend a suitable discharge group, or go a
remote place and let it all out.
Something to at least consider… it is never, ever justified to get angry
at a person or situation. That you get angry, yes; justified – no.
All anger is to do with you – the situation not being the way your ego is
Another thing. Often when someone ‘decides to share their truth’ they just
dump all of their their stuff. All of it. Again, not appropriate.
Instead of saying something like – “You make me angry”
how about – “When you said that, I felt….” Responsibility.
And one other thing. Often when people decide to share their truth they
start dumping out everything that is going on in their mind. Everything.
And they call that ‘sharing their truth.’
It is not sharing your truth, it is sharing your disturbed neurosis.
It is an attempt to dump out all your neurotic discomfort on to someone
else – so you do not have to feel it. Doesn’t work.
That way, the only ‘friends’ you are likely to have are people who also
want to dump their stuff – and then complain that nobody loves them.
This is the time – to slow down, and spend some time each day to honestly
contemplate how you are behaving in your life.
Not to judge yourself in any way, just look at how you can be more caring
and loving with everyone – including yourself.