We judge in others what we judge in ourselves.
Lets call this little chat “The other”, meaning other people.
The suggestion is that you take what is suggested, don’t check it out whether you
think it is true or not. Take it as though it is true. Take it as a hypothesis, just so you
can see it a certain way. And if it does not connect for you, you can let it go. In order
for you to connect with what is being shared, you need to accept what is being
What is being suggested is: We are all one. I know this is vast, too big, isn’t it?
How can we all be one when you are sitting over there, and I am sitting over here?
And we take that as a hypothesis. To make it a little easier, lets say, we are all one
family. Even then that isn’t easy because we have Chinese, Japanese, Americans,
English and so on. How can we all be one family? But again, lets take it as a
Some scientists say, we are one family. We all came from one woman in Africa.
Although the latest is, it was not actually Africa. The Aboriginals in Australia are
even older. It does not matter. One family. One energy. But we don’t see it that way.
When we meet somebody they are very separate. We are us and they are they.
And usually there is a judgement – with everybody.
Even the word judgement – we have to take a look at that. “Judge ye not lest you
be judged.” Even when you say, they are a wonderful person, it is a judgement.
Because you are saying, they are not the opposite of wonderful. Usually we are
looking for the flaws in people, for the things that are not in harmony. Where does
that come from?
We never see another person. Of course, visually we see an image out there.
Scientist will tell you that this image is a projection. That is very hard to connect
with. But it is a projection in a way. In order to comprehend what we see about the
other person we have to compare it. You cant see white if you don’t have black.
You have to have its opposite. So every time you look at anybody you are comparing
them with either yourself, or somebody else, or with what you think is perfect, or with
how you think they should be. Christians judge in a Christian way, Jews judge in
Jewish way, Moslems judge in their way…
We compare. That is the only way we can see somebody out there, by comparison.
Unless you are in The Zone, and then there is no comparison. There is no good
andno bad. So we are comparing this person out there, which means we are
projecting this person. We are not actually seeing who they are. We are seeing
our projection of them. And to complicate it more, what we are seeing out, even if
we were to see directly from The Zone, we are not seeing the person but their
behaviour. We are seeing how they behave based on all their conditioning.
Where does this comparison come from? It comes from us. We are projecting
ourselves out there. Any judgement we have about anybody is a projection of a
part of ourselves we are not accepting. If we accepted ourselves, if we were with
ourselves just as we are ….and even that is complicated of course because when
we say ‘ourselve’, who are we talking about? Are we talking about the ultimate purity,
the connection to the source, or the behaviour. Usually we see the behaviour
because the mind does not go beyond the behaviour. So anything we don’t accept
in ourselves we get upset or judgemental about the other person.
Everyone is a projection? Yes. Everybody is a projection. The first thing you see is
behaviour, their story, their body posture, their facial expression, their voice, their tone,
the way they talk, which is usually a cliché. And then behind there is usually the person
they are ashamed of, the person they are hiding. That is why they put the behaviour on
the top because they don’t want anybody to see who they really are, or who they think
they really are. Because that is not who they are. And then behind there, is their
potential of who they could be. And behind there is who they are already and so on
…to the source.nAnd then we get to the place we have started, The One. We are all
one. We are all unique projections from the source.
So when we meet someone, we are judging them. We do judge them. Whether you
say, you do or you don’t like, it’s a judgement. So here you are seeing this person
but in actual fact you are not. You are projecting your idea onto this person. If they
have a subtle annoying behaviour it is very easy to say, that is who they are.
I want to make this more clear: When your are walking down the road and there i
a carer pushing a wheel chair with a young person who has no control over their
body. Their hands are waving around, their face is screwed up, and when they talk
you cant understand what they are saying because they don’t know how to control
themselves to say what they want to say. That is pretty obvious, isn’t it? They are who
they are. That is their behaviour, and they are doing the best they can under the
circumstances they were born with.
But everyone is handicapped. Everyone has a handicap unless they are in The Zone,
which is very very rare. So you and I have a handicap we were born with. Lets say
there were past lives and then we were born with the handicaps of our parents, the
conditioning of our parents, the conditioning of our teacher and preachers. Then we
have the government, television, and the media.
So you see we have got all these handicaps. And we are actually all doing the best
we can with this burden. And as you listening to this, you have no excuse to continue
on like that. You can come out of it. How to do you come out of it? You become aware
of yourself in each moment. You become aware of your body, your posture, your
facial expression, your voice, your tone of voice, what you are saying, how you are
saying it, what you are projecting…You start to become aware of that. You become
aware and the very awareness mirrors it and it will start to fade. It has to be in every
Back to where we started. We don’t see each other. We project our idea based on
how we see ourselves onto the other. With our new level of awareness, lets take a
look at each other a little more gently. Most of us feel for a person with a mental or
physical handicap. But often we don’t have that same feeling for somebody whose
behaviour is not so pleasant. Lets slow down a little bit and get a bit more soft and
gentle and tune in to this other person. In a way this person is also us. And we are
also them. And they are doing the best they know under the circumstance and so are
you… in each moment.
The suggestion is to slow down and tune into the person and see them, feel them,
move into the level of empathy with them and you might find you start to see a different
person. And you might start to feel a different person yourself. On another level we are
all in this lake, this pool of consciousness. And out of this pool arises our unique
individuality. At the source we are all That. Slow down, take a breath, expand a little,
get softer, gentler and now look at this person. You might find that there is a whole