Most people have a fixed idea of what is possible and what is not possible.
As we start to be less asleep, more awake, we start to realize that what we have been accepting as ‘the way it is’, is not the way it is. There really is something else.
And it seems that this happens in degrees. We have a certain level of waking up and we go: Ah right, it is not like I thought it was; it is like this. And then we start to assume that ‘this’, new ‘this’, is the way it is. Because we want to be safe and secure and predictable. You want to say: Ah, this is it. And it isn’t ‘it’. I don’t think there is an ‘it’. It’s moving and changing all the time.
So we have an awakening, we see the way it is and that’s the way we want to see it now. And it isn’t the way it is. Because if you can see there is still a seer and a seen. There still is a separateness. So to have our realizations and then say: Great, and is there anything else? Be grateful for where you are and be open for something else.
Now, one of the things that people wake up to is that they have had a fixed idea about what’s possible and not possible. Of course, we were indoctrinated with that from birth: This is the way it is. And it is a different ‘this’, depending on whether you are a Catholic or a Muslim or a Jew or a this or a that. The ‘this’ is different. When you realize: Oh, it is not that way. Things aren’t as fixed as I thought, so therefore I can change it; I can manifest it. In fact, there are workshops about manifesting, which is certainly a better idea than being stuck in the old. But what we don’t realize is, when we manifest something, we manifest it from the old because that’s all we have got. We don’t have the new, we don’t know what the new is. So when we manifest something, we take the old and squeeze it into a shape that we like better and project it into the future and say: That’s what we want.
Marilyn Monroe sang: After you get what you want, you don’t want what you got at all…
So when you get there you realize: Oh, this is out of date already or this isn’t the way I thought it was or I didn’t realize that. I didn’t realize that. And we can’t because we don’t see in the future. Even a psychic, when they see what we call the future, is the future based on now. You can say: Oh, this will happen to you in the future but only if you go on doing the same thing in the same way. So if a psychic says: You are going to have a car accident on the 19th.You don’t get in a car on the 19th, you have already changed what’s called the future.
So when we manifest, we manifest from the old. And we put a lot of energy into it, getting something that may, almost certainly, what we want but not what we need. And what we really need to be open for is: What do we need? Whatever it is, however it is. We need to be open to what we need. So then people say: So don’t manifest. And we are going to extremes again.
What I suggest is this: sit, close your eyes, turn everything off, and listen. Be still. And then allow coming in: How would I like things to be ideally? Where would I like to be? What would I like to be doing? Who would I like to be? Get it all very clear. Because you see, that is your reality. Whether you know it or not, that’s your matrix. That’s your pattern. That’s what goes on in the background all the time. That’s why you keep getting upset because things aren’t the way that you would like them to be. In the background, but get it clear. Bring it all to the foreground. See it. Get it clearly and say: That’s the way I would like things to be. And then disconnect and let it go, as is appropriate.
Don’t make things happen. You use your will and almost certainly you will regret it. Because the will, let’s say, it bends things. Your will bends things. You bend … you know when you convince somebody against their will to do something. They are never happy and neither are you. Because you know you made them do it and they didn’t want to do it. Disconnect from the will. Acknowledge it, see what you would like and disconnect from it. Make space, open up and say: As is appropriate, that’s what I am available for.
Let’s go back a little bit. Almost everybody all the time has a fixed place. And if you say: Oh, that will never happen. You have put out a frequency that that will never happen. Oh, I’ll never meet anybody that… You have just created it. Acknowledge that thought and then say: And, I don’t know. Existence, I am open for whatever you would like to bring me, however you would like to bring it. Open up, be available for whatever.
Have you noticed, sometimes some of the most intriguing things seem to happen by what we call accident? Do you know, many of the great breakthroughs in science were all an accident? Look at the guy that developed LSD. He had no idea what was happening to him. Going into these states, he didn’t know where he was coming from. He was just imbibing the fumes and going into a state. Oh and so many things… Madam Curie.. and Einstein had it come in his sleep and so on. We don’t know.
Now, this is what I am telling you. Listen, listen: dare don’t know. Don’t know!
There could be a knock on the door anytime or the phone will ring or anything can happen. Anything, way, way beyond what you imagined because you’re imagining the old in the old way. And it is usually contracted and it is usually complaining: Oh, that doesn’t happen to me! O h, I never win anything!
Well, you keep going on like that and you probably won’t. You are creating an aura around you and existence will respond to that: Oh, so you think nothing will happen? I’ll make sure nothing happens.
Instead say: I don’t know and I am available. And it may come in some unexpected form. And I am ready, I am available. Every time the phone rings I pick up not knowing. Every time I meet somebody. I don’t know whether I am not going to say anything, I am going to have a deep conversation or I am going to live with them for the rest of my life. Don’t know in each moment.
Here’s something else to do, with you not getting what you want. So as I say what I am about to say, watch where the mind tends to jump and have a reaction to it. Just, just listen. Just listen:
You see most of the time most people are not having fun because they think they don’t deserve it. Do you deserve it? You take a look inside and you will probably find that somewhere you are not honoring yourself. You are not accepting yourself the way you are. You think you should be another way. Or you think about all the things where you were not kind or you could have done something else. And so, at some level down there, you don’t think you deserve what you would like. And that keeps blocking your blessings. Allowing existence to bless you, to shower on you, to pour all over you – abundance.
Nothing is a coincidence, everything has some link somewhere. And if you look deep inside…Oh, I used to do this in the group. I used to say: Say a long-lost uncle had left you some money. How much did he leave you? You’d be amazed the piddling little amounts people gave themselves. Instead of millions and millions and millions, they would say: Oh, he left me a $100 or a1000 or 10000 but they are restricting, they just would not open up to a total amount beyond their imagination. And that’s what we do. We just don’t allow ourselves to be that open to an abundant unexpected gift in each moment.
Where I was born in England, it was: Oh yeah, well we are going on a picnic, it will probably rain. And where I was if you’d say: How are you feeling? If somebody was feeling really good, they’d say: It could be worse. You see that’s a frequency, that’s a vibration, that’s what you are putting out, so that’s what you get. And I am not talking about the opposite of being positive. I am just talking about not being negative -just being open. Yes, it could rain and it may not. And even if it does rain, maybe…, and so on. Keep looking for possibilities that you enjoy and not keep looking on the dark side.
Here’s another aspect to not getting what we would like to get. What we don’t realize is, as I was saying before, we have got a fixed place inside. It is fixed and I see it as a box. And inside the box are all sorts of little compartments so that this can’t happen unless that happens. And so these are the conditions that you are setting up for what you want to happen. And you make it pretty well impossible.
Here’s an alternative. Just for a moment, imagine you are semi-transparent. Instead of being a fixed idea, you are a not-knowing energy. Now, everything is changing and moving and shifting. And if you look, everything is growing. You just put a tiny little seed in the soil and water it and in no time at all you’ve got this incredible being coming out of the ground. And trees that you imagined: Oh it’s a tree, but keep looking at it and you find its growing its moving its changing. Everything is growing and moving and changing.
If you are less fixed, life will flow through you because you are not stopping it in anyway. You are not fixing it in anyway. You are not putting conditions on it. You are saying to life, live me. Live through me. Be me. And you are part then. Not a part, meaning separate. You are part of this incredible abundance. Go out into the forest, go down to the river, look at the fields, bursting with energy, with life and movement. Moving, always moving.
So when we get a fixed idea, we have anchored ourselves in a spot. And as soon as you are not moving you are miserable. The joy, the bliss, the ecstasy is being with each moment as it takes place. Flowing with it. When I say with it, you are not doing anything you are just not stopping yourself.
A classic: You jump in a river. If you are trying to achieve something you are swimming up against the tide. Or you are a negative person: you are fighting your way down the flow. Instead: just let go. Bernie Gunther used to say: Waterfall, no trouble at all. Just be with the flow. And it will take you here and it will take you there. And it will always take you exactly where you need to be at exactly the time you need to be there. You will say: Isn’t that amazing I met you at this point? No, it is not amazing. This is what happens when we get out of the way, when we become part of life instead of a part.
And then you know, you really do feel blessed. You say: Ah, isn’t that amazing? Isn’t that wonderful? And the thing is, you see, the more you feel blessed the more blessings you get. Tiddly Pom. That’s the way it is. Gratefulness creates a space for more to come to you, exactly what you need in exactly the appropriate moment.