Relationships. So much to say…
Basically, we are alone. At the level most people choose (unconsciously) to live,
reproduction, survival, safety, security and predictability are the main concerns. That
is what they live. That is all they ‘know. ’ These are the basic levels into which they
were born and conditioned. It is very rare to find anyone who has gone beyond
these ‘primitive’ levels.
The few that do go beyond start to become aware of an alternate way of living. They
become more conscious — and actually start to vibrate at a ‘higher’ frequency. At a
certain level of consciousness a paradox becomes clear — we are each alone, and
there is no separateness — there is only the oneness.
We all know this. Some are closer to being more in touch with this than others. Some
were born closer to this knowingness, and some had less conditioning that took
them away from it.
When we are living in the unconscious, primitive levels, there is a drive to find the ‘right’
partner. We feel driven. Not only is the reproductive urge at work, we want someone to
make us feel good, to take away that empty or disturbed feeling we have when we are
alone — the feeling that something is missing.
This is one of the main causes of disturbances in relationships — each is trying to get
the other to ‘fill in the gap’ so that they can feel complete. (It is not possible for
anything on the outside to give us that fulfilled, peaceful feeling. It comes from the
inside.)
More and more I´m feeling that a relationship is not for me, and that my favorite
time is when I´m alone. This is a ‘Good Sign. ’
…or with somebody that I can be as if I´m alone.
Somebody who is at the same level of vibration as you; they are not looking to get
anything from you (including approval) ; their mind is at peace; they are ‘empty. ’
I´m watching my patterns around relationship, and feeling open to see and share,
and not to run away at the first not very good feeling or situation. Seeing and staying,
trying to see more deep what´s going on, and it´s nice sometimes, and others feels like
this life, a couple situation, is not my favorite way to live,
If you are disturbed by a situation with someone then there is something for you to look
at in yourself. Anything you are uncomfortable about in others is something you are not
accepting about yourself. When something happens that you do not like, there is
something going on in your body, mind, and emotions, but you do not contract, just
observe, then you are free of that situation and do not need to keep experiencing it.
I always felt that I´ll be alone and not as couple. I love people, friends, lovers, be in
contact, but always loved my space and time when I´m alone.
‘Paul’ is so easy to live around because, he is not, he just is.