When we look at another person we are seeing ourselves.
To me the truth seems very, very variable. Different sorts of truths to different sorts of circumstances – and in one way, as far as I can see, everything is true. And in another way nothing is true, nothing. It’s all proportional or depending upon or what’s absolutely true for one person, is absolutely not so for somebody else.
And of course we can see that in the indoctrinations of religion, where what is true for Christianity is totally not true in other religions, for Muslims and Jews and so on. It’s their truth, that’s what they think is the truth. So then we say well what is The Truth, and I can’t find that. It all seems relative to the situation.
One way of looking at it, just one approach to it, goes like this:
Normally, when two people come together, they don’t meet. Just listen carefully! People don’t meet! What happens is one person comes along -and if you can imagine, you know when there is a dust devil, there is a swirl of dust- imagine this person comes in this swirl of their own reality and in a way of their own importance- and sometimes it is the opposite even of importance, because they think so little about each other, but it’s still about them.
And then along comes another dust devil – them- and these two „thems“ are in the same proximity, but they don’t see each other. And then we go off into a whole other world. What is another? What is reality? Of course we won’t go into it here, but there is no such thing as reality. It is all relevant to the person. The person is actually creating reality. Some levels of science are saying that now. Things have mentioned before: there is no colour in the world, there is no sound in the world, but then we say, but we can hear things!
We all agree on colours and these scientists are saying no. What happens is there is a frequency out there, there is a vibration out there. We have senses that pick up the frequency and then translate the frequency according to how we’ve been programmed. So to see a Moslem woman with only her eyes showing, sometimes not even that, is very strange to somebody that has been brought up in a religion that is totally the opposite. And yet it’s that’s person’s truth but it’s also this person’s truth.
So when they look at, what are they seeing? They are seeing the result of their conditioning. The person out there, when they look back at the seer, they are seeing their interpretation of a conditioning they have been given about what they see. In other words, in a way we are all seeing ourselves, projected out there.
I have done this before, but I’ll say it again:
Somebody, who is selfless, no judgement, unconditional, lives in a very pure state. If they were to say, „I feel love“, this is what happens, something in this person gets stimulated. This stimulation is an energy and this energy feels to be expressed. So it comes up and via the senses, via the feelings, the emotions, the brain, and then the body, it produces a frequency.
What happens is: vocal cords vibrate, we say ‚vocal cords’ but actually no sound comes from the vocal cords. Just listen: no sound comes from the vocal cords. A frequency is emitted. That frequency travels through the air- not words, not sound, a frequency. The ears of the other person, which has little hairs in them and chemicals, ear drums, and this and that, pick up the sound as a vibration. It’s a vibration and then it’s sent to part of the brain, saying, oh, this is a sound. I’ll send it on to my friend who knows about sound. And this part of the brain says, oh, this is a word, I’ll send it along to my friend, who can translate words. And if it is a language that you understand, that part of the brain translates that vibration, via the sound, via the word into meaning.
But it’s your meaning. It is totally your meaning. And when I say your meaning, I mean the meaning you’ve been given by somebody else about the word love.
When Jesus talks about „Love thy enemy“ or „God is love“, that’s not what Christians hear. „Love thy neighbour“ – and there is as much violence in Christianity as anywhere. And most religions are violent. So the word ‚love’ from the person that is in a pure state is nothing like what the person, who is listening is understanding. So we are interpreting everything.
Let’s say a person says, „Do you want to meet so and so..?“ And the other person says: „No, I don’t really enjoy their company“. And then the person they are talking about comes, and the person, who said „I don’t enjoy their company“ is immediately friendly, warm or caring. What happened? Now listen, when two people come together, they don’t meet, they are both in their own worlds and they are both judging each other, consciously or unconsciously. That’s all there is in this world – judgement.
Something is either bad or good. Either way, that’s a judgement. If you say, somebody is good, you are saying they are not bad. If they are bad, they are not good. That’s how the mind works. It works in duality. It seperates anything. That is the only way it can work.
„Judge ye not lest ye be judged“. And as most of the things Jesus says, sounds very simple, but it is so deep. So when a person, who is whatever we call, in the state or empty, and somebody comes along, whose company they are not particularly having fun with, they become a different person, because they are not ankered in themselves. They are not selfish, they are not self-orientated. The person comes into their aura, they embrace them. Lovely. They embrace them literally, they embrace them with their energy, and in that embracing is what is possible here. Not actively, not looking to change the person, but something changes because their energy comes in and the energy is combined instead of saying seperate. And the person who is clear is then looking and caring, no judgement, loving and available for whatever is appropriate for the maximum potential of these two people coming together.
Now, if this person that is visiting is open, the clear person may have something to share with her. But if they are not open, it will be aggression to share something that the other person would be traumatised by. That’s not love. Love is what can float, what can gently move around.
Let me go back again: Two people together don’t meet, they are both totally in their own worlds and they are judging all the time: they could be like this, they could be like that, they shouldn’t do this, they shouldn’t do that – not realising that they haven’t opened up unconditionally and embraced this person.
So when you meet someone and you are as open and as unconditional as you know now to be, you may have judgements and you see them, but you give them no energy. You don’t support them, you don’t suppress them. You tune into the other person. In a way you are making them at least equally as important as you are. You are dropping out of your self-centeredness, the contraction. You are expanding and including them.
And then this is what you find: anything that is appropriate for them to hear from you will just flow out from you. It will flow to them, because it’s all one energy now, not two energies in conflict. It’s one energy. You have become part of their energy. And so whatever you say will be appropriate. It will be to a depth, ….yes, that’s appropriate.
So it’s recognizing where you are, taking a deep breath, opening and letting yourself go. Disconnect from all your individual things and include the other. Whatever is appropriate will just flow out from you.
I will just briefly mention this: there is no such thing as another person. There really, really is only one. And I am not talking just about a theoretical projection, whereas you are projecting the other person by your standards. I’m talking about something else: a source of energy that seems to have divided itself into different entities, helping us to see ourselves more clearly.
Everything you judge in a person is something you are not accepting in yourself. Accepting – such an easy word to say, accepting hardly anybody does….accepting themself let alone other people.
As soon as they see themselves clearly, they say in this moment, this is who I am! They will also see that in the other person. „Oh, that is stuck in that thing that I am stuck in – or, hopefully, „I was stuck in“. And as soon as it is a „was“, it is a love, it is a caring.
So we come back to this little thing from Winnie the Pooh that I have adapted. In the East they say „The Seer and the Seen are One“. Just sit with that for a while.
The Seer and the Seen are One- Tiddly Pom.
No Seer, no Seen, no One!